Blog from the past

So this blog was written about two years ago and I still believe EVERY word I have written!! I have started this new blog so wanted to bring it across with me so I'm reposting 

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Today is the anniversary of our engagement, 4 beautiful years ago!

When Roger & I got engaged, everyone was so quick to offer marital advice, funnily enough most of it came from either unmarried people or those who had been through divorce.

To this day, there is only one piece of advice that I loved, it was from a family friend of Rogers, he simply said "Be nice to one another".... So can a marriage really thrive living by that principle? Can it really be that simple??

I believe so!!

If you live with that as one of your main values & follow a few other guidelines, I think everyone can be blissfully happy!

There are a few things lately that have made me think about love, life & relationships, so if I were to write a book on making a relationship/marriage work, it would be incredibly short & sweet!

Chapter 1 - Communicate
Communication is the key to ANY relationship working, at home, at work and with friends, without it you are left frustrated not knowing how anyone feels or what is bothering them! Hide NOTHING from one another, even if you think it's trivial or unimportant, if you feel the need to hide it, then it's probably wrong & could have a negative effect on your relationship

Chapter 2 - Never take each other for granted.
On any given day, we don't know what is around the corner. Appreciate each other & the little things in your life. Remember to tell your husband/wife that you love them but most importantly SHOW them!
For anyone who hasn't read the book "the 5 love languages" by Gary Chapman, it is an absolute MUST!! 

Chapter 3 - Celebrate together.
Roger & I still celebrate milestones of our relationship. The anniversary of us becoming a couple, getting engaged, getting married & most recently, the anniversary of finding out our first child together was on his way!
You don't have to buy gifts or make a big hooha but simply remembering these times helps you to remember why you fell in love! If we don't have the money to go out, we have "Date Nights", cooking something yummy for dinner & watching a movie! It's that simple, it's about remembering not money!!
Date nights are important, with or without a reason or anniversary behind them too!

Chapter 4 - Intimacy is more important than you think!
Being intimate with your husband/wife is vital to have a healthy relationship, I mean if you can't connect with your partner on the one level that is truly only yours, then what's the point?! 
Remember, intimacy doesn't just mean Sex, it can be a cuddle, a kiss or being held in your partners arms before you roll over & go to sleep!

Chapter 5 - Spend time together.
Life gets in the way of so many things, spending time with friends & family is one of them, it's a harsh reality of growing up!! Make spending time with your other half a priority, this can be as simple as staying home and watching tv or you can go out to do things you both enjoy!! "A family that plays together, Stays together"

Chapter 6 - Be Nice
The sixth and final chapter of my hypothetical book would be this!
Be Nice!! Its not hard to say "how are you?" or "how was your day?" this is a great start!! If you argue, play fair, don't call each other names or be nasty, you'll never get anywhere if you do! 
People often don't believe me when I say Roger & I don't Fight or Argue, some even believe that it's not healthy, I completely wholeheartedly disagree!
By using the other points above in our every day lives, there has been no need! We talk & whenever either of us do get crabby or frustrated with the other one, we simply play fair which avoids the need to yell & scream!


Now saying all of that, we are not and will never be perfect or profess to have a "perfect relationship", we just made a choice to work on our relationship ever day when we took our wedding vows! We stood before our friends, family & before God to love one another, cherish each other in sickness & in health, in good times & bad. 

Living by these vows is how we (and you all) can have a happy and healthy marriage!

Enough of my ramblings for today, Happy Engagement Anniversary Roger, I'm happier now than I was that day & look forward to many many more years of celebrating with you!!

Be Nice to one another people

Jess xxx

Buyer's Remorse

We’ve all been there, from the “I didn’t really need that” purchase to the “Should have waited til next pay day” purchase or the “Damn it went on sale 5 minutes after I bought it” purchase, but the remorse I am feeling is one I haven’t felt before. 

My baby girl turns 10 next month and it just so happens that her music crush is going to be in Australia touring. 

So to me, the logic was simple, spoilt or not we were going to Justin Bieber. 

I was hesitant to begin with because of the cost of the tickets, I am pretty certain that even for $125 a ticket, our noses will be bleeding we’re that high and far back in the arena. 

I have been planning this surprise trip from Tasmania to Sydney for months, we are going as a family and visiting one of the most iconic cities in the country for 3.5 days, a place that neither myself or my hubby have been to since we were kids. 

Then it began, I started searching eBay to find her Justin Bieber apparel to save on the cost of buying it all at the concert when I stumbled across a huge huge amount of tickets to his shows being sold. 

For the first time in my life, I was horrified and really realised the impact that the scalping industry can have. I had no choice but to purchase the cheapest tickets to the concert due to the fact all the better ones were sold. I now know that at least 50% of them were on eBay with these horrid people trying to make themselves a profit. 

Now it did cross my mind to buy us some better seats but after the expense of the original tickets, accommodation and flights it just wasn’t an extra cost we could afford. 

I had gotten over it until yesterday, then at work I was chatting to my customers about our upcoming trip to Sydney when I started to hear all about this article that was written on news.com.au yesterday, the title says it all “The concert no one wants to go to anymore” (http://news.com.au/entertainment/music/justin-bieber-the-concert-no-one-wants-to-go-to-anymore/story-e6frfn09-1226762423759) 

Now, I get that he is a young pop star who has grown up in the spotlight and I have no doubt has the fortune of a small country but I am one of the parents that doesn’t and can’t excuse his behaviour. I am hopeful my 10yr old finds a new obsession soon. 

I took Lily to see his first movie he released and after seeing it I gained a respect for him, needless to say the way he has started acting (just google new him and you will get a wealth of naughty stories) as he gets older has cancelled out every last bit of that. 

So I guess we will go to the concert and hope that he restores a little of my respect in him! 

I know we will have a wonderful time in Sydney but I have to say, the buyer’s remorse certainly doesn’t feel to be going away any time soon. 

Oh and P.S JB, PULL YOUR PANTS UP! 

Mrs J Rad xxx 

Little old me

Well I thought it was time to introduce myself!

I am Jess, I am 27 years old
I am a born and bred Tasmanian (Australia's BEST state)
I am the Wife of my absolute favourite person in this world
I am the mother to two amazing children, Lily 9 and Ira 21 months.
I work full time for an employer and 24/7 at home.

My life hasn't been perfect but the ups and downs from a young age have formed me to be who I am and for that I am grateful.

I have always had a passion for media, I think that it became part of me at the age of 10 when with the help of our local radio network and my parents, I started a petition to get Hanson (www.hanson.net) to come to my home state. I collected 4196 signatures and through the process got to go in to our local radio and guest DJ. It made the local newspaper (www.examiner.com.au/story/640120/calling-hanson) which sparked the interest of a national news show Today Tonight. From there, they contacted me to arrange for me to meet them if they ever came to Australia. Two years later, like any normal teenage girl, I was over them & had moved on to something or someone else.... Then we got the call, they were coming and Today Tonight wanted to FLY me to meet them and run a story on them, It truly was a dream come true to be on national tv and meet these boys I had adored for years.

Then came my quest towards my media career.

I did work experience in Radio, Newspapers and ended up attending Launceston College with our very own radio station!! I was on track to getting in to University to study Journalism.

Then, at 17, I found out I was pregnant. I was petrified yet excited and with that, came the change in my focus, I parked my plans of working in media and focussed on the most important job in the world, to be a mum!

I have always loved TV, Movies, Books and Music, I get very passionate and emotionally attached to the characters and form bonds with them.

I am known in my family for the saying "the books are always better than the movies" and in my time have only ever had one live up to my expectations... (And if you're reading this E.L James, please don't let them murder 50 shades in the transition to a screenplay!!)

I have always loved social media, to be brutally honest, my husband and I flirted via MySpace before we became a couple!! I moved with the times and got myself a Facebook and most recently I had my eyes opened to the world of Twitter (@mrsjrad).

It was from there I had the most amazing time with a group of women & the ever so talented @ShemarMoore during his Indiegogo campaign "The Bounce Back".

I made a number of forever friends and one of which inspired me to take some "Me" time and get back in to what I love, Media and Social Media.

Thus, my blog is born!! 

As of today I am proudly supporting another campaign on indiegogo by Keith Tisdell (see previous post) and have been invited to be a part of the ENMNetwork which I am thrilled (and a little nervous) about!!

So for anyone out there reading this, thank you!! There will be more of me to come and I hope you continue to be a part of it!

For now I'm signing off, the baby is awake (it's 11pm grrr) so time for a cuddle and bed for this lady!

Much love,

MrsJRad aka Jess 

Never give up

I have a friend who I will write more on probably tomorrow, but he is an actor and I'm lucky enough to become somewhat of a friend, I mean I wouldn't be on his to Christmas card list lol but in grateful he has taken the time to respond to my messages and tweets and I know he knows who I am, even if it is the crazy Aussie lady hehe!!

His name is Keith Tisdell and he has recently launched his first Indiegogo campaign to fund his documentary and one man show!

Check him out and if you believe in helping people achieve their dreams, help him out & be a part of something really special

http://igg.me/p/483365/twtr/3612949

This one is for you Keith, NEVER give up

#TeamWorkMakesTheDreamWork

The beginning

So here I am, a proper introduction will come soon enough but the reason I am here is because a special lady who inspired me, she reignited the spark inside of me that I had for media before I had my beautiful daughter nearly 10 years ago!

So what can you expect?? I honestly don't know, as the name of my blog says, probably a lot of rambling on the things that I love, so I guess you can expect the unexpected cause even I haven't fully figured it out yet!!

Much love to you all,

Mrs J-Rad